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How to be a Prize in a Man's Eyes

High Value Woman by Sharayah Hooper


Thinking very little of yourself can come quickly. And this degrading mindset comes in many different forms. Perhaps when you look in the mirror, you feel disappointed. Maybe you take everyone else’s unwarranted opinions and place them on your shoulders. Riddled with this doubt and the need to please everyone, the strength to keep going can quickly dwindle. But what is the alternative? Where can you turn when the self seems unimportant?

I Am the Prize

An “I am the prize” mindset that is taking society by storm emphasizes familiarity and reassurance of your worth. This value is unique to you. It does not have anything to do with your connection with those around you or what they think. It does not have anything to do with how much money you have, where you live, your job, or who your friends are. You have value. You have worth. You are the prize.

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Without this Mindset

Low self-esteem is difficult to overcome. It tears at your sense of worth. It can even rip it to shreds if given enough reign, to the point that even walking out the door is a struggle.

Who would want to see me? What will others think? Why do I even try?

These are just a sampling of the damaging questions that can run through your head when smothered by low self-esteem. This virus of a mindset preys on your shortcomings, what you want to change (even if that change is for the better), making you believe it is not worth even trying, that you will never overcome, that you will never be good enough.

Perhaps your focus is to please. While helping others or striving to make those around you happy is a noble effort, it can (like all other desires) go to an extreme. This desire can quickly turn into a need only to please those around you, and if they are unhappy, it is your fault. This people-pleaser mindset can be detrimental if left unchecked. A simple desire to be kind can become necessary where your value is determined by how others feel about you. Are you enough for them? Do they agree with the decisions you are making? Do they like you?

This type of thinking weakens you until you can’t help but believe it until it becomes a habitual mindset until it wins.

But it does not have to be this way. There is an alternative. You are a prize.

Claiming the Mindset

Claiming an “I am the Prize” mindset is not a one-and-done endeavor. Mindsets never are. They take time to become ingrained and habitual. Simply saying it once will not make you believe it, but that is a step in the right direction.

So, say it. I am the prize. That is the first step to believing it, to assert that you have value and worth outside of any circumstances or opinions outside of your control. Following are a handful of other steps you can take to continue on this journey.

The Emotion Machine suggests tangibly identifying your strengths. For example, this could be achieved by writing down a list that you can refer to or crafting an essay detailing what you value about yourself and what you love.

Speak your worth out loud when you feel yourself being pulled in the wrong direction, whether by outside forces or your mind trying to trip you up. On another note, shut down assumptions that nobody should want to be around you. Why wouldn’t they? You’re amazing!

Remind yourself that it is the other person’s loss if they don’t want to be around you. You bring value to their life, and they will miss out.

Seek out relationships that build you up instead of tear you down. You are worthy of being around people who see the worth you see in yourself, as well as their value. Together, you can build each other up.

Be kind to yourself. Focus on building your strengths and leave room for the inevitable weakness. Those make us human. As humans, we are not perfect, but that does not make us unlovable.

With all this in mind, remember, you are the prize.


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