Updated: Oct 24
Why wait around for your sex life to fizzle when you can tackle sensual satisfaction proactively? We can all stop pretending and admit that we’ve all found ourselves in a sex rut now and then. Maybe we’re tired from a long week of work, perhaps the kids have exhausted you beyond measure or you’ve found yourself newly single and have just not been in the mood lately. It’s not a lie when we say that a lot is going on in our day-to-day lives that leave us feeling a little worn out or deflated. When you’re lethargic, it’s hard to motivate yourself to get excited for romance and spice things up in the bedroom. Whatever the reason, sometimes when we fall into a sex rut and want to get our mojo back; we need to take things to the next level when candlelight and baths just won’t do the trick anymore. If you’re searching for tips and helpful advice, know you’re not alone. According to the most recent search data available, ‘how to spice up your sex life’ is searched for nearly 5,000 times per month. Here are the top four tips that you can do to help create more magic in between the bedsheets.
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Have sex without kissing your partner anywhere on their body – when your lips are taken out of the equation, you’ll have to find new ways to use your hands to get each other off. This is honestly the best advice one of my friends has ever given me. As soon as I took my lips off his for the remainder of the episode, the night somehow turned into a hot erotic movie.
Spend the day completely naked — watch TV together naked, eat together naked, cuddle naked — but don’t have sex until the very end of the night. This one might seem a little out there, but I promise it’s a lot of fun. As women, we LOVE to roam the different rooms and hallways in our homes in just our panties; but you’ll find when a man joins you in doing it, things are bound to get a little hot.
Have a toy marathon – take out all of the sex toys that you own and try to use every single one tonight. No exceptions. Sometimes what is lacking in your sex life and what could be making your rut turn into a drought is the fact that missionary can get VERY boring. So, try switching it up, look up different positions that will work for you and your body type; and then break out those toys and get to playing. I promise, things are bound to get more interesting.
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Start touching each other – little moments of hot foreplay in random places can get you both hot really fast. These could mean little passes of finger movements under a blanket while you both are sitting on the couch; gentle swipes while you are both walking by each other in an aisle or hell, you could even go out to dinner and touch each other underneath the table without anyone noticing. Just try and get your partner frazzled throughout the day and when the time comes and you’ve got them alone, start ripping each other’s clothes off.
Sex doesn’t always need to be passionate lovemaking. Sometimes you just need a quickie or a sensual massage or something like mutual masturbation. Don’t wait until the end of the night for sex. Instead, have fun with it throughout the day.