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Signs Your Ex is Pretending to be Over You


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Have you ever gone through a breakup and find out your ex is in a new relationship shortly after you broke up? Well, what if I told you that that new relationship is a farse? It means nothing and I’m not just saying that to make you feel better. The number one sign your ex is pretending to be over you is jumping into a new relationship.


In all reality, there is nothing that cuts deeper than seeing your ex in a new relationship right after you break up. It gives the impression that your relationship meant nothing, but rebounds are just that. They are there so you don’t have to feel heartbreak, to recover from something that meant everything to you. So, before you let his new beau bother you, remember it’s a show so that he doesn’t look crippled seeing you in public.

Another sign is ignoring you altogether. Most couples meet and make friends together and when you break up, a lot of times you stay friends with those people. If and when you find yourself in the same environment as your ex and they ignore you, it’s because if they talk to you it will probably result in begging you to come back. They are trying to hate you so it’s easier to get over you.

Alternatively, they could be extra friendly when they run into you in public. This is a sign they are trying to convince you they are fine! There is nothing about you that makes them uncomfortable and they are super fine seeing you. They are not. They are so sad and want you to think they are handling everything well and are happy with their lives without you.

In all reality, you have done these things as well because you are also an ex to someone. It’s hard seeing someone you once loved long after you’ve both gone your separate ways. So really if you want to know the signs that your ex is pretending to be over you, think of what you have done in the past. I usually try to get in great shape and wear my favorite clothes whenever I go out so that if I bumped into them, they would think my life was perfectly together. We all pretend, for a time, that we’re fine, regardless of reality.

I would say as you look at the signs of whether your ex wants you or not, you should also look at what you’re doing when you’re around them. If the breakup wasn’t mutual then odds are that you are pretending just as much as they are. So why are you pretending? Do you want to get back together? Or do you just miss having a partner?

Are you in a new relationship, are you working out a lot, are you having sex whenever you want to? All of these are signs; if both you and your ex are doing them, then you are both pretending to be fine and happy. Maybe you should talk to each other and find closure, maybe you need to be alone. After my first long-term relationship ended, I jumped from boyfriend to boyfriend with little emotional attachment but I couldn’t let my ex think he had that much influence on me! I was pretending and so was he. We shouldn’t have gotten back together, but we couldn’t keep one-upping each other trying to be fine.

One of the hardest parts of any breakup is finding yourself again without a partner. You have to re-discover yourself and love yourself alone. It is challenging, but it can be the most exciting journey to your next love.

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