Royal watchers, fairy-tale lovers, and women who support anything regarding self-love and independence let out your collective breath: Prince Harry, fifth in line to the British throne and mental health-spokesman, and his wife, The Duchess of Sussex Meghan Markle, has officially left the royal palace. Though they are living out their dreams of becoming independent from the royal family, they are now in the limelight where they must continuously dodge criticism and rumors. Regardless of the critics, the romantic couple has continued to hold their head high and maintain a much-needed positive outlook on life.
Aside from their titles and seemingly realistic dreams as they step out into the public eye, the couple has always seemed to appear as caring and encouraging people. You know, the ones we’d all love to make friends with. And if we hadn’t already fallen in love with their enthusiasm to lead independent lives, we can all agree that Meghan Markle is a mystery of her own. She came into the royal family as a commoner who made her name as an actress, campaigner, and blogger. Markle is most famous for her role in the US TV drama, Suites. Though her fame came when her acting took off, she did frequently astonish audiences with powerful speeches on human rights and equality. Her offering to the world is charismatic and life-changing and has even fueled many of us into believing that wonders do happen to “ordinary” people. Markle has been lighting the way for women her entire life and has continually created pep-talks on how to lead a life full of self-acceptance and enlightenment.
Bearing that in mind, we couldn’t resist the temptation to list out the top three Meghan Markle tips, based on her own real-life experiences, on how you can lead your life full of purpose and inspiration.
Be okay with hearing NO: We can all agree that absolutely no one wins anything right from the start. Your dreams are like running a marathon, not a sprint. Keep in mind, even when someone tells you no, you must show up every day. Even when you do not feel like it, you must ensure that you are nurturing the seeds that have been planted. When being cast for the first time, Meghan Markle had to get used to hearing NO from the auditioning board members. “I ended up going into so many auditions, and you get the thickest skin of all time since it’s very hard not to question something about yourself in those moments when it has absolutely nothing to do with you.” This can be applied to anything in life. Whether you are applying to a contest or job interview, you must remember that the employers are looking for someone specific. Though not meeting their requirements, you are still skilled and worthy of finding your place in the world. So, keep trying and remember that every cloud has a silver lining.
Always cheer yourself on and know your worth: Humans are hard-wired to overestimate their setbacks rather than embracing small positive results. However, motivation hardly stems from self-berating or self-blaming. According to Meghan Markle the lasting piece of advice she keeps in mind every single day is “to be kind to yourself.” What the Duchess wants you to understand is that it is okay to mess up. You are going to have hiccups and typos. Yes, they might drive you insane, but they are a natural part of life. In simple understanding, the Universe will deliver exactly what you want, just not in the way you might have originally planned. “If we just talked to ourselves as we talk to our best friends, how much nicer we would be to ourselves. I would never be nasty; I would never in a million years say to my friend anything that I say to myself when I’m beating myself up over a mistake.” We want you to etch that piece of self-care wisdom into your mind because this is the way you become your own cheerleader.
Do less pretending and practice being more you: Before deleting her Instagram and blog (as one must do before becoming a royal person), Markle repeatedly revealed her genuine amazement at how fortunate her life was after struggling as an auditioning actor for so long. After completing many of her amazing journeys in life, Markle became a representative for the UN Women Organization. Her empowering speeches revolved around being honest, authentic and genuine. Markle advises, “You need to know that you are enough… That five pounds lost won’t make you happier, that makeup won’t make you prettier, that the now iconic saying from Jerry Maguire – “You complete me” – frankly, isn’t true. You are complete with or without a partner. You are enough just the way you are.”
If you are wanting to assess your self-esteem according to the well-known Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale, answer a few questions here. We could all use a refreshing course of self-acceptance and love from the former royal family. The Duchess of Sussex is more than a pretty face; she was the breath of fresh air that was desperately missing from the royal palace, and we could all practice what she has to preach - that once you truly start being yourself, life will open up many doors.