by Danielle Wright & Lisa K. Stephenson
The emotional disconnect some women experience with their partners can be a soul-crushing experience that often leads to the end of their relationship.
However, for some women, finding a partner is such a long and grueling process that they would rather stick with the "evil they know"—a partner they’ve developed love for and with whom they’ve established comfort. Despite the common narrative online about women being the "prize" in a relationship, reality often paints a different picture. Men, in many cases, are disciplined enough to ensure that women face consequences for actions they disagree with.
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In other words, men set standards and follow through on them. A woman can easily feel powerless in her relationship once her partner establishes dominance and remains firm in his decision-making. This dynamic contrasts with many women, who often enforce their standards and boundaries only on men they aren’t truly interested in, while making exceptions for those they find attractive. Men are aware of this, which is why conventionally attractive men often feel free to juggle multiple women or engage in promiscuity without facing significant consequences. Take Chris Brown, for example.
During his recent appearance on Kai Cenat’s streaming platform, he was asked if he was in a relationship. He smirked and replied, “A few actually.” A man who is not conventionally attractive would likely be ridiculed for making such a claim. Women dating conventionally attractive men can easily fall victim to their nonchalance. A similar dynamic can be seen with Chrisean Rock and Blueface, whose tumultuous relationship has played out publicly for years. Despite Blueface’s frequent expressions of disdain toward her, Chrisean remains loyal, continuing to proclaim her love for him.
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Women are often skilled at giving grace and forgiving bad behavior from men, but this tendency can sometimes lead to a decrease in effort on the man’s part to impress or sustain the relationship. There are only two institutions that hold men accountable—marriage and child support. While the average man may view the latter as less of a commitment, it remains a form of responsibility that can significantly alter the trajectory of his life. However, there are ways to avoid it—for instance, by taking on untraceable, off-the-books employment. The same cannot be said for marriage. Women should, in fact, date with the intention of entering a relationship that leads to marriage, and the best way to ensure this outcome is by setting and maintaining boundaries.