Why Sirens Don’t Argue Online

The other day I decided it was time to cuddle up with a good book and, lo and behold, I stumbled upon a book that was, of course, gifted to me—I work for the author, so duh! Lol. Anyway, it’s called The Snows of Khione by Lisa K. Stephenson. As I was reading, I came across a very interesting point in the story where a King could not confront his Queen in front of company. I’m being very vague here so as not to give away the plot or any major details, but all in all, this small detail by the author had me thinking about sirens and how women are perceived in front of company—even couples, for that matter.

Fast forward, I was inspired to pitch this idea to my senior editor: to work on a siren series. The word siren originally comes from the Greek mythological creatures called Sirens, who used their enchanting singing to lure sailors toward dangerous rocks and shipwrecks. I believe if you read the aforementioned novel, you’ll see the correlation. While Sirens in Greek mythology were known for luring sailors to wreck, in a contemporary context, this is a woman who projects magnetic, irresistible attraction or allure—seduction, intuition, and in some rare cases, the darker side of influence and manipulation.

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It’s 2025, and if you’re still a woman seeking male validation or hoping to one day meet the man of your dreams who will be your prince charming and be everything you’ve ever imagined and more, then I’m so sorry, but this article is not for you. Sirens are not waiting for a man. Sirens are not to be tamed—they are to be appreciated, adored, and revered. Men understand that they are naturally protectors and providers, hence why they are okay with taking the backseat when it comes to aiding with the children or household chores. They see those things as a woman’s duty. And for the “nice guys” who don’t, well, guess what—they’ll eventually use weaponized incompetence to get out of those duties, leaving the woman to do it all herself anyway.

In the end, the woman loses when she is not yet ready to accept who she truly is or can be: a Siren. In Greek mythology, Sirens were known for singing and having beautiful, seductive voices that would lure fishermen to their demise—not quarreling, arguing, or nagging. Their voices sounded angelic, while beneath it all were deadly creatures. Sirens aren’t supposed to argue, not because women are meant to be a man’s peace, but because nature never intended it to be so. Women who argue with men or beg men for reciprocation are not in alignment with their higher selves. Until you do the shadow work and heal past trauma, you’re more than likely going to be stuck begging a man-child to be the partner you wish he would be based on the films you’ve consumed or the videos you’ve watched from self-titled relationship coaches.

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Arguing online as a woman can leave you open to widespread criticism and completely against structural and normative expectations. A survey found that women report greater fear of being targeted by online harms (harassment, misogyny, doxxing) and are less comfortable than men with public expression online. Yet many engage anyway, not realizing they are taking the bait and showing themselves as a potential “lick.” What do I mean? Even if deep down you know you’re right and pose a valid argument, you’re never going to “win.” Social norms often expect women to display traits of warmth, agreeableness, and communal concern, and when a woman deviates from this and becomes belligerent or combative, it reflects her character.

Energetically, she attracts those who are just like her. Interestingly enough, if you’re spiritual, then you’ll understand that nine times out of ten, the people you meet online—whether romantically or platonically—are not meant to be in your life. They’re simply not meant to cross your path. Social engineering and manipulated algorithms have made it possible for the man you met on Bumble to take you on a date or for the man who swiped up on your Instagram story to slide into your DMs, but how are they linked to your purpose? If these tools didn’t exist, would they have met you at all? Online spaces only amplify everyday issues and occurrences—whether that’s communication problems, gender norms, audience, or invisibility.

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You may think you’re living a certain kind of life, but the reality is it’s all been orchestrated, manufactured by a system rooted in capitalism. Women should avoid public arguments in 2025 to protect their mental health, reputation, professional prospects, and most importantly, their femininity. How can you expect to meet the man of your dreams when energetically you’ve collected more karma than Thanos did those infinity stones? Arguing online with strangers is not siren energy—it will not help you evolve into a space where you meet a significant other worthy of your energy, time, and nurturance.

Men are very observant. If they see a woman under posts constantly voicing her thoughts and appearing unhinged or “outspoken,” sure, he may approach her, but the intention is not long-term. He doesn’t like you because you’re brave and quick-witted; he likes you because you’re emotional and therefore easily malleable. His behavior will influence your emotions, making you attached to him. He can love-bomb you easily, sleep with you easily, manipulate you easily, cheat, and leave when he chooses. You are not a siren.

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Men marry and remain faithful to sirens. Why? These women go against societal norms, but not in the way that’s typically expected of them. They are less emotional, not because they don’t care about their partners, but because they care about themselves more. They are career-oriented, not because they don’t love their partners, but because they haven’t made their partner their whole identity. Sirens have the most successful relationships, often free from infidelity—not because their partner doesn’t face temptation, but because he knows that woman will leave him. Not for someone else, but for herself.

Women who argue online are masculine, and to a straight man, she’s an easy target. Reserve your opinions for your close friends. Keep an air of mystery about you. Do not feel bad for liking or loving a man and being loud about it, because in the end, if he so much as breathes wrong, you’ll be happy to leave and take whatever you need with you. Sirens don’t argue—we live life to the fullest and cater to our friends and family. As for the men in our lives, we reward good behavior with reciprocity, but we do not enforce obligation.

by Danielle Wright