He Doubts My Love for Him: Signs, Reasons and How to Reassure Him
Love is truly a splendid thing, but sometimes it can be a bit problematic to prove to the partners we adore just how authentic our amorous emotions run. Relationships are notoriously difficult to navigate—especially in an age so heavy with hesitancy about monogamy, anti-committal sentiments, and tendencies toward infidelity. Each person possesses an individual threshold for love.
While your investment in a relationship may be quite serious, your words, actions, or attitudes might come off as too cavalier to convince your partner otherwise. For a plethora of reasons, he may be mistrusting of love or wary of false commitment and, thus, may require an increased level of affirmation to validate his investment. Affection is one thing, but what follows is an in-depth look at exactly how to reassure your lover of your sincerest emotions—from secrets to sex, to speaking and sacrifices.
BE COMPLETELY TRANSPARENT ABOUT YOUR PAST
One indisputable act that demonstrates true love is unbridled honesty, particularly concerning events, affairs, and accidents that occurred before the relationship began. Hesitancy to disclose unappealing skeletons and shameful regrets is innate—no one desires to decimate an entire cherished partnership over the immoral acts of their past.
However, if the person you are with is as emotionally invested in you as you are in them, then the boundless love they harbor will eventually overpower the hurt, disdain, or disappointment they may temporarily feel. Allowing him an unimpeded view of your life—wrongdoings and mistakes included—will illustrate how wholly you trust and adore him. In confessing your innermost secrets, you attest to your promises of openness, honesty, and sincerity. An absence of secrets about the past will reassure him of your commitment to integrity and, ostensibly, to his faith in you. By knowing you fully, he can believe in your love most securely.
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ALWAYS MAINTAIN OPEN, HONEST COMMUNICATION
In addition to upholding complete transparency about the past, maintaining open conversations about opinions, emotions, and ideas in the present is an effective way to demonstrate sincere investment in a relationship. Expressing to your partner all salient thoughts and feelings—particularly those about the partnership—will refute any inkling of mistrust or lingering skepticism.
Established open communication is especially valuable in times of dispute, as it enables you to succinctly address an issue without distressing one another. A testament to true love is resolving conflicts civilly, which should always be kept in mind. When expressing adverse insights or opinions, it is vital to remain authentic in your message but considerate in your words and approach. Discouraging doubt is difficult, but by allowing your partner constant awareness of what you’re thinking, his faith should be affirmed by your candor.
ENGAGE AS EMOTIONALLY AS YOU DO PHYSICALLY
Emotional vulnerability can be incredibly difficult, even when you are infatuated with the person you are sharing a bed with. One of the primary catalysts of doubt or suspicion in a relationship is an unbalanced equation of physical intimacy to romantic domesticity. There are a plethora of ways to convey sincere adoration sexually, but if that is the sole expression of your love for your partner, it may be misleading.
If he feels uncertain about your commitment to the relationship, attempt to offer more romantic gestures or engage more frequently in activities with purely emotional purposes. The tender acts you perceive as inane or unnecessary might be the epitome of love or confirmation of dedication to your partner. Engaging in actions motivated solely by emotion will illustrate just how much you adore him.
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LEARN HIS LOVE LANGUAGE AND FOLLOW THROUGH
If your prior or existing attempts at affirming your feelings have been largely unsuccessful, it could mean you are misinterpreting your partner’s love language. Though there are many effective ways to certify your adoration for someone, custom-tailoring your approaches to their character and desires will be even more successful and will indicate how attentive you are.
There are numerous ways people recognize when another cares for them: from physical affection to verbal affirmation, ample time spent together to impromptu gift-giving. Observe which acts and gestures elicit the most elation from your partner—are they warm compliments or intimate one-on-ones? Alter your actions to exhibit adoration in ways that resonate with him, as doing so will definitively validate your sincere commitment.
PRIORITIZE HIS NEEDS ABOVE YOURS—SOMETIMES
Being more inclusive when considering the things that will benefit your partner’s well-being is a huge step toward being a better girlfriend and will ultimately affirm the partnership. Adjusting or sacrificing aspects of your life to accommodate your partner is an integral element of a secure, sustainable relationship. Prioritizing your significant other (in certain regards and to a healthy extent) is the epitome of pure adoration, and thus, enacting such is an unparalleled act.
by Caitlin Boos
