How to Become a Priority in His Life

How to Become a Priority in His Life

No matter where you are in your relationship, there comes a time when one person may feel like the other is taking them for granted. Ultimately, you may start to feel like you are putting in all of the effort without receiving anything in return. Of course, it’s not because they don’t love you; it’s simply that they haven’t been making you a priority. First, let me tell you that this feeling is completely normal. It’s natural to feel like everything else in life starts to take priority over you. Sometimes this is true, and other times it’s not the case.

But if you’ve ever felt that things were great when you were together and then all of a sudden fell apart when you weren’t, or if you’ve ever felt like things could be just a little bit better (like him spending a little more time with you or talking a little more about you), then chances are they could be. If you’re stuck with the feeling that you’ve become less of a priority in his life and want to figure out how to become that priority, then stick around because these four rules will help get you there.

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How to Become a Priority in His Life

KEEP YOUR MINDSET OPEN, OR AT LEAST ACT LIKE IT IS.
It doesn’t matter if a guy hasn’t committed yet or if you’re currently in a relationship with him; a man will pick up on the sense that you’re a step away from walking away. When this happens, he will likely step up and do a bit more work. Now, this isn’t meant to be used as an ultimatum or dangled in front of him in a narcissistic way. It’s supposed to be used as a tactic to increase the attraction between you two. So, if the feeling that you’re taking second place in his life starts to creep in, then have the mindset that you’re not going to settle for anything less than the absolute best.

AVOID PUTTING A MAN FIRST AND BENDING OVER BACKWARD TO PLEASE HIM.
No, this doesn’t mean becoming a complete dictator in your relationship. It just means that you need to develop a backbone when it comes to his shenanigans. If you’re willing to jump through hoops to cook for him, be great in bed, and keep him from straying, there’s no motivation for him to work that hard or put you first. When he knows that he’s going to get those things anyway, he doesn’t see the need to put in the same effort to please you back. Remember, you want to keep him coming back for more—even if you two are married.

SUPPORT HIM AND TAP INTO WHAT HE NEEDS FROM THE RELATIONSHIP.
When you use this method, try not to fall into the mindset that you need to give him the seal of approval for everything. If you’ve never heard of the Five Love Languages, you need to read what they have to offer because every person receives and gives love differently. Take the time to get to know your partner and what he needs from the relationship for it to work for him. When you can energize a man and make him feel alive and ready to face whatever challenges lie ahead, that’s when he will start to see you as the most important woman in his life. He’ll begin to appreciate and treasure you.

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INSPIRE HIM TO REACH HIS DREAMS.
A lot of women pull back at this suggestion and start complaining without seeing the deeper benefits of it. You may already feel like you are putting in all the effort into the relationship, so why should you have to do it anymore? When is it your turn to be treated well and prioritized? The real answer is that you already have an amount of energy that you’re putting into the relationship.

However, you’re placing it on the wrong things and focusing on parts of the relationship that are not as significant. When you start getting to a man’s core and fulfilling his deepest needs, you’re not doing any extra work. It’s true: when a man can see this amazing quality you bring to his life, he will place you at the top of his priorities and never let you go.

by Kayla McCullough 

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