How to Manifest Your Soulmate

Have you ever caught yourself daydreaming about that perfect person? You know, the one who knows you better than you know yourself—the guy who shows up randomly with a much-needed box of chocolates and wine, brushes your hair until you fall asleep, and uses his knight-in-shining-armor act to protect you from the dangers of the world?

We all seem to be searching for the seemingly ethereal concept of a soulmate. But here’s a thought: do they even exist? And if they do, how on earth are you supposed to find yours among the 9 billion people on this planet? This is something I’ve mulled over time and time again throughout the years. My opinions on the concept might seem odd to you. You might not buy into them. But let’s dive in anyway.

ATTRACTING YOUR SOULMATE:
Firstly, I don’t believe everyone on the planet needs a soulmate. My thoughts on this stem from the idea that people are capable of needing and receiving at varying levels. I’m a deep person—some argue maybe too deep for my own good. Whatever the opinion, I often feel like I’m teetering between being intriguingly quirky and downright bizarre enough to scare people away. (I’m telling you this for a reason.)

I’ve always felt that there are certain people, souls, or spirits I resonate with on an intangible level. When I meet these people, I’m filled with an instant sense of completion.

I’ve explained this phenomenon to friends. Some said, “Wow, I’ve never felt that.” Others had experienced it too. But at first, I didn’t know what to make of it. Some of these moments were with women, and some were with men. With the men, I didn’t always feel attracted to them; and if I did, things often ended in disaster.

This leads me to my next point: we often think of soulmates as lovers, as kindred spirits who might eventually become lifelong partners. The belief is that these connections will blossom into beautiful friendships and ultimately lead to marriage.

But over the years, I’ve learned that soulmates exist in many forms. They aren’t always romantic. If I had to guess, there are likely quite a few people out there who could fit the role of a soulmate in your life. The problem isn’t finding them; it’s being able to connect with your highest self, recognize your inner need for this kind of connection, and then identify it in someone else.

The one thing experts suggest is to practice opening your heart beyond its current boundaries. Buddhists offer excellent teachings on stretching and growing the heart to accept all that life brings your way. For a person to find their soulmate, they must often crave a deep connection on a visceral level. This ultimately means finding people who are open to the same kind of connection you seek. It does take two to tango, right? But how do we achieve this? What steps will lead you to the path toward finding your happily ever after?

The answer might not be what you want to hear, but it’s probably as simple as it gets: every choice you make helps the Universe guide you toward the relationship of your dreams. The “real” goal as you manifest your soulmate is to prepare yourself to receive what the Universe has already created for you. By nurturing yourself and working on deeper issues like forgiveness, appreciation, intention, and openness, you create space for magic to happen and allow the Universe to hear your call. Knowing your soulmate is on their way, you must make room in your life and heart for them.

One of the most powerful practices for self-care and positive manifestation is to forgive and release all that has come before. What you resist persists. Forgive the past loves who have hurt you. More importantly, forgive yourself for poor judgment, poor choices in relationships, or anything you’ve done that caused harm. Your past has shaped you—your relationships, loves, and mistakes have all shaped you—but they don’t define you.

It’s entirely natural to desire a fulfilling relationship with your soulmate and to experience love in that way. But when manifesting your soulmate, it’s essential to fall in love with yourself first! You are just as deserving of your love as your soulmate is. Loving yourself fully and embracing who you are breeds confidence.

That confidence is deeply attractive to everyone in your life and will be especially attractive to your soulmate when they arrive. Learn to appreciate all your positive qualities, talents, and gifts. Send them love and gratitude. But also, allow yourself to focus on the aspects of yourself you don’t like or wish to improve. Send these areas love and light instead of resentment. How can you grow a sense of love for these parts of yourself? Loving your past challenges, resentments, and dislikes is where you can make the quickest and most impactful changes in your life.

Find the person you resonate with—the one who is just as open as you are. The person you not only like or find attractive but also someone with whom you share an inexplicable connection. Be patient, be open, be kind, and, above all, let love come to you.

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by Kayla McCullough