by Danielle Wright
Is ‘girl boss’ culture…dying? In 2014, Sophia Amoruso popularized the term with a hashtag prefix in her autobiography, which was later adapted into a TV show of the same name.
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Its usage was defined by perceived empowerment, and the rest is history. To be a girl boss means having big dreams and being willing to work hard for them. Most women will go to school, find good internships, work hard, get into a career, and then climb the corporate ladder. Take Sex and the City’s Miranda Hobbes, for example: the successful attorney turned mother and wife who was still unwilling to give up her career to cater to her family.
Opposite her, we have Charlotte York, her best friend who, from the very beginning of the show, made it clear that she was all about the submissive role—no buying apartments, only renting, for example. A timeless classic, the show allowed viewers to see two women with completely different mindsets thrive in the same friend group. However, their differences eventually came to a head when Charlotte married Trey MacDougal, a successful surgeon.
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She decided to quit her job at the art gallery, a decision Miranda objected to… covertly. Despite attempting not to pass judgment in front of Charlotte, Miranda made her objections known when pressed by Charlotte, notably by not congratulating her on the decision. Similarly, Miranda showed the same contempt for her best friend Carrie, who, after dating Aleksandr Petrovsky for a limited time, decided to uproot her life to move with him to Paris. Needless to say, Miranda was the quintessential girl boss, while her friends embodied a soft-life approach.
Next, let’s take a look at the men Miranda, Carrie, and Charlotte dated, attracted, or ultimately settled down with. Steve, for Miranda, is very laid-back and doesn’t sit in his masculine energy. Next to Miranda, he exudes many feminine traits and almost seems irresponsible, like another child she is raising. Carrie and Charlotte, on the other hand, attracted men who embodied masculine energy (with Trey being the exception due to his “momma’s boy” tendencies). Despite this, Trey was also hardworking, a provider, and a decision-maker when it counted.
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For instance, when Charlotte and his mother argued over whether she could keep the apartment, Trey took swift action and resolved the dispute, leaving the home to his then-estranged wife. Carrie’s relationships with Aleksandr Petrovsky and Mr. Big also followed this dynamic, as she was consistently allowed to sit in her feminine energy—something both men seemed to appreciate. Was she always put together? No, but she often embodied the “damsel” archetype, which made her attractive as a woman who needed a man.