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Allow yourself to take a step back, get clear with what you want and only allow yourself to attract those types of people. When it doesn’t feel right, trust it. But this goes beyond making a list, this is doing an internal inventory of who you are and some inner deep work to heal what is stopping you from getting what you deserve and what is meant for you. You attract what you are. And just when you think you have healed and are ready, the Universe will then give you a test to be sure.
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The authors of, “Baby Out of Wedlock” thrilled us with their unique and compelling story of two people who managed to find love outside of their relationships. While this may seem like a story of infidelity, it is quite the opposite. As Jim and Jessica Braz prepared for parenthood with their respected partners – neither of which were married—the pair began to realize that they were somehow meant for each other.


Children born out of wedlock are children born to unwed parents. The CDC says 40% of all births in the USA involve unmarried parents accounting for an astounding 1,500,000 births. So, how does Baby Out of Wedlock factor into this? The book is a guide for individuals involved in nasty custody battles and an aid in how child support is calculated amongst a plethora of additional information.

When we dived into the book it was fascinating. Not only backed by statistics, Baby Out of Wedlock, speaks on controversial topics such as vaccinations, parenting styles, sleep training, and the roles played by both mom and dad concerning the upbringing of their child/children. For their co-parents, Jim and Jessica did not dive too much into that, rather keeping the story steady, amicable, and insightful all the same.

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Introduced in High School the pair shared a brief moment of intimacy. A decade later rekindling through social media as fate would have it and the two were coincidently unmarried parents within six months of each other. The ability to relate through experience brought the pair even closer and through their need for information were able to acquire the necessary data aiding them today with co-parenting their children. Together, they offer free counseling sessions and advise that the title, Baby Out of Wedlock, although it may sound negative to some readers deliver an uplifting message of hope and confidence through knowledge.

Both Jim and Jessica did the work that led to the elucidation of structured parenting. Today, the pair are married to one another and both co-parent with individuals outside of their marriage.

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About twelve years ago (before we were a couple), we were each involved in surprise pregnancies with people we did not want to marry. We had no experience with parenting or family law, and we both made many mistakes that ended up costing tens of thousands in legal fees and unbearable stress. It wasn't easy to find answers to basic questions, such as when overnight visits should begin away from mom or how child support was calculated. Small misunderstandings with our co-parents led to minor arguments, which compounded and spiraled into full-blow custody battles.

About 40% of Babies Are Born to Unmarried Parents -

Recent estimates show that about 40 percent of births in the United States occur outside of marriage, up from 28 percent in 1990. Forty percent was about 1.5 million births in 2019. For mothers under the age of 30 years old, the figure is about 50%. (


Divorce Rate -

About 50% of all marriages in the USA end in divorce. In 2019 there were about 800,000 divorces in the country. Therefore, almost double the number of babies are born out of wedlock each year (1.5m) compared to divorces, yet no other books are dedicated to these parents.


Abortion Rate -

In 2018, 619,591 legal induced abortions were reported to CDC from 49 reporting areas. About 85% of abortions involve unmarried mothers. (


Births Out of Wedlock By Race -

In 2016, 28% of all births to non-Hispanic white women occurred outside of marriage, up from 15% of births in 1990. In 2016, 52% of all births to Hispanic women occurred outside of marriage, up from 34% in 1990. For non-Hispanic black women between 1990 and 2016, it went from 63% to 69%.


Highest, Lowest Rate States For Births Out of Wedlock -

New Mexico, Louisiana, and Mississippi are the only states where more than 50% of all babies born are out-of-wedlock parents. Idaho, Colorado, and Utah are the only states below 30%.

Get the full article April 13th available on newsstands. Want a copy delivered to your door? Pre-order here.

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